Thursday, May 20, 2010

I forgot a few Cents.... here is 3 more!

OK... so... I want to add something to yesterdays post.
There were some comments floating around on twitter about People being jealous of experiences that people were having with the people they met on twitter and that it wasn't fair that they were friends in real life because they wanted to be too. It was said in not so many words something along the lines of by people talking about their experiences they have with the twitter friends shouldn't be talked about because it makes people mad/upset/jealous and we shouldn't be hurting peoples feelings.......


You have to be. So NOW... I am not "allowed" to talk about what I do anytime or any place with my friends because it upsets people? Are we not grown people? Are we Adults ( I use that term loosely) As many people know I refuse to censor myself. I have a trash mouth and I am very opinionated. I am true to who I am and I don't hide much. But on the other hand I know when and when not to let my true self hang out. Ask ANY of my #DisneyMOMS and they will tell you.
I spend a lot of time at the parks and I like to post pictures of fun things I am doing, play foursquare with my peeps ( mayor of 3 monorails thank you very much) . If you are mad that I am at the parks or upset because I am hanging with MY FRIENDS then I just cant help that. I am sorry that you live far away and cant come out as often as I do! I REALLY am because for a long time I didn't have the means to be at Disney a lot either. Hell, James and I don't really have the means to be at Disney a lot now but we make do. Packing lunches and such. We make it work! We don't do ADRs except on Birthdays and Special occasions. We split a Turkey Leg, we share a large soda. There are days when we don't eat but a snack in the park and we are ok with that. But Don't be mad or angry because we can do that. If you don't like it then you don't have to follow me. You don't have to be my friend. Twitter for me isn't about how many followers I have or how many people I follow. It is about connecting with people that to me are interesting and like the same things I do. I get jealous of people on Cruises (never been), People who go to Disneyland (only been once when I was 13), and most of all Tokyo Disney (My DREAM Disney trip) But I am NOT about to hate on them because they get to go! Nor am I going to be #Snarky (hush it Jenn) or nasty to them about it! I will tell them I am jealous but will enjoy watching their trip via pics and tweets or blog entries!

Honestly, I was made to feel bad for being at the parks so often. And from here on out I REFUSE to do that! If you don't like me, what I tweet about, what I blog about and so on then UNFOLLOW me but DON'T try and make me feel bad! Because from here on out, I WILL call you out on it! I am honestly one of the most easy going people ever. Very go with the flow and chill but the drama/high school level of twitter (and i will willingly admit i have been participating and I need to stop) has put me on edge and I am O V E R it :)

One of my pet peeves is people who didn't have a fulfilling high school career and start to act like they are back in HS as an adult..... well I did! I don't need to participate in it again as an adult!

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

My 6 Cents

A Blog was posted over on The Disney Driven Life that has struck a chord with me and instead of filling up their blog with my response I decided to come to my own blog and respond.

I was given permission to link this blog by the blog owner JL.
This is the post that was posted.

Dear JL,

Hey there! I just thought I’d write to you because you might understand my frame of mind right now. Do you ever just want to give up completely on the Disney community thing? I’ve tried to jump in at different forums and on twitter. It is just so frustrating. Then I see all the goings-on among people that have known each other forever on the Disney boards and twitter, and I think, “Why bother? I’m never going to fit in there. They only RT things from friends or respond enthusiastically to the known people. I’m never going to be able to compete with what’s already out there.” I just want to give up.

I needed to vent a little I guess. Thanks for reading this.

Signed, Discouraged

Dear Discouraged,

Yes, I have those days ALL THE TIME! I’m not kidding either. It is very frequent that I want to throw in the towel because I feel like I am not interacting enough or I am not “in.” I see inside jokes being thrown between cliques on twitter and in the forums, and I feel like an outsider. I see people making plans with one another to which I’m not invited and feel unwanted. I will have a blog post go up sometimes and only a couple (if any) people will actually leave a comment, and I feel like I have failed at connecting. But in all honesty, I think a lot of the isolated feelings stem from the disjointed form of communication we are tryng to use. It’s hard to know if people don’t respond to tweets and posts because they don’t like you, or if it’s because they just didn’t see them.

In my minimal experience online, I’ve come to realize that what often feels like “not fitting in” is just due to trying to participate in an imperfect form of communication.

There are times when feeling “left out” is an accurate perception. I have dealt with many clique-type attitudes in more than one Disney forum. I have even been undeniably snubbed on twitter and in chat rooms. It is ugly. It is mean. It is wrong.

In some cases, I have decided that I don’t want to participate in the group. In other cases, the media platform has been big enough where I could find other areas on it to socialize.

But regardless of what is decided, in order to find a place in the Disney community one must show persistance. Keep tweeting, following, posting, offering help, etc. You’ll find that it will come.

My main point is that there is no need for insecurity. Just be yourself. That is the best way to draw people. If you try to be someone you’re not just for the sake of fitting in, people will see through you and be turned off by it.

Chin up! I’ve had my days where the purpose of my activity got lost. On those days I’ve had to step back and take a breather. But I’ve always returned and put my Mickey ears back on. I hope you decide to do the same.

Neurotically yours,

JL (NDM#1)

Hmmm... Ok I get it. It SUCKS when you feel left out of events going on. I stopped visiting the DIS boards because I didn't think i gelled at ALL over there! Those people were kinda mean since I wasn't a Mom or a Dad so I just said BUH BYE!!!! Not worth my time! Jealousy that people get to do cool things that you wish you could and go places you want to go. Hell, I get that on a daily basis. But what I have issue with is the not including thing. I am lucky enough to be a local and be at the parks on a weekly basis if I can. ANY time I have been out there and an out of towner has been in town if I can then I make the time to go and meet them! Even if it is for a 5 minute hi bye type thing. And I have never seen one of the people on my list turn someone down. I have not been able to meet everyone ( I am SO SORRY Seth and Kayla) because I have had other things going on or it has been fees-able ( i don't drive and rely on public transportation most of the time). It isn't about not making people feel like part of the group or included. Sometimes you just cant meet or hang with everyone.

There are a group of people on Twitter that are participating in the Food and Wine 5K in October and we have given out teams a name! The Men are #MoronsUnite and the Ladies are #SnarkyTiaraQueens. We also have a Group name of #LushCrew . People have asked about the groups and we have said that they are team names for the 5K and if you are participating in the race then you are MORE then welcome to join our little group! People have gotten mad at one or more of us for not including everyone. Well, pardon me but what is the point of having a team name if we just call everyone that name? We are planning specific events and shirts and celebrations having to do with the team so I think it is our right to have our own name. I'm sorry that not everyone feels included but if a group of people are planning something and you cant come to that event you cant be mad at us for continuing to plan said event! We aren't the only ones that are a specific group either. There are others. Perhaps if people did some digging and found out the reason behind the group and the event they wouldn't have that "left out" feeling.

I follow about 300ish Disney people out of the 600 someodd people I follow and I have been lucky to meet a few off that list! I have made some life long friends thanks to twitter! People that I love to spend time with and people who I can call when I have had a bad day. I am not blind to the Clique-ness of twitter but lets be honest. Weather you are in school, work, a knitting group, a book club or ice skating there will ALWAYS be Cliques. There will always be the "cool group" that you wish you were part of. But as adults we know that the entire concept of "cool group" is just plain ridiculous. You make your group of who you want and you do the things you want to do! If you want to be included then ASK.... then SPEAK UP. If you hide behind a screen name or a knitting bag or your desk then you have NOBODY to blame but yourself! if you want to have fun then get out there and introduce yourself and meet people! Thats how I did it! I went and Met Amanda Tinney at the parks one day and we hit it off and she brought me to the Social Media Moms Conference and I got to meet all my other amazing Mommies and that lead me to meet other people and so on and so on! You have to put yourself out there sometimes. And I don't always click with everyone. I am loud and mouthy and I have opinions I have NO problem stating but I am VERY happy to report that I have clicked with just about everyone I have met in the most amazing way! And there are people that I have connected with that I haven't met in person yet but as the weeks go on I am so excited to do so!

Let me get my point out. This is the INTERNET.... honestly, it is hard to catch everything everyone says. Tones and Sarcasm don't always come across the best on line. Its hard to judge someones mood unless they state their specific mood. I do my BEST to reply to everyone that talks directly to me. I even talk to people who aren't directing a question to me and sometimes they don't answer me but I don't get bent out of shape (well sometimes I do but we all have emotional days). I follow 600 some odd people... it isn't always easy to catch up with my tweet stream and there are people who follow a WHOLE lot more AND a whole lot less then I do and cant always keep up. There also isn't a Twitter etiquette police. Not everyone is going to like everyone else! It is JUST like real life! Not everyone gets along with everyone else. People will fight, people will make out, people will get angry, people will celebrate. DO YOUR OWN THING! Don't be a sheep all the time :) sometimes it is OK to be a Llama and make your own amazing event that people will be jealous they can't go to! And that is OK!!!!!One day everyone will meet everyone else and not everyone will get along and some people will and others will make out and dance and it will be great......Plain and Simple! Do what you can and Envy what you cant but turn that envy into do someday!

Saturday, May 15, 2010

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Thursday Meme

1 - How old do you act?

13 on a good day! When I am at Disney with the Gang it is more like 15 or 16!

2 - As far back as you can remember, what did you want to be when you grew up?

A teacher or a stewardess

3 - If you were to write a book based on your life, what would the title be?

"From Yankee Proper to Southern Casual, the Tales of a Frumpy Mocha Princess"

4 - What's something that you do that's considered "childish" by most?

I throw one HELL of a tantrum!! LOL. I am pretty used to getting my way so I have whining and begging and pouting to a T!

5 - The last question isn't a question. Write a story of a time of when you or someone you know overcame great adversity.

~The story i am going to tell isn't anything MAJOR, it is just a win for me! Selfish I know but it is my blog dammit!~

Ok. I grew up one of VERY FEW mocha children in a very small New England town! No mocha Boys... all girls and I was one of VERY FEW! In 3rd grade I had this KILLER Crush on a Boy named Matt S. I wanted that kid with everything in my little brown body! Well there was a sock hop at my school and While I was there in my little poodle skirt, Saddle shoes and my pink angora sweater with my afro, I asked Matt to dance with me! He looked at me and said "I'm Sorry, I don't dance with Niggers." Well.... I had NEVER heard that word used towards me like that and I ran home crying (thank Jesus that I lives 3 houses up from my school) My Now Tragically dead grandmother called Matt S's family IMMEDIATELY (perks of living in a small town of less then 3000) and they came right over with Matt in tow. They sent us kids down stairs to play while the adults talked. Long story short for this part is Matt apologized and had to clean our yard for 3 months. Fast Forward to Sophomore year of High School. I was the only girl grip for my school's production of The Importance of Being Earnest and Matt was my partner in spinning the set.... We didn't talk about the night in 3rd grade at all and got along very well since it was me and him on one side of the dark stage behind the scenes for the whole play. There was a lot of flirting and touching going on in that dark backstage! Nothing more scandalous of grabbing a boob or patting my hiney. Just innocent flirting and hugging and kisses on the cheek and top of the head. Well One night we were waiting out front for our respective rides and he was walking behind me with his arms around my front and tickling me pretty much in that adorable boy way to get me to squirm against him :) he turned me around and asked me if he could kiss me. NOW MIND YOU this would have been my first BIG KID with tongues and stuff! I looked him sweetly in the eyes and smiled, leaned very close and said "I'm sorry I don't kiss Honkeys!" At this exact moment my tragically now dead grandmother pulled up and I left! :) Now we ALL KNOW this was not nice at all and it wasn't very PC but God Dammit! He deserved it! He ignored me every day until he graduated a year later! But I got my dig in and while it wasn't overly mature it made me feel better! Now I have grown up and married the whitest Honkey of all time and I love him more then Pepsi! So it wasn't true but boy did it put a smile on my face! I am sure Matt S has married some VERY white chick and is raising little German children in Rural American who are learning to shoot first and look second and I am very happy for him :)

The Kill- 30 Seconds to Mars

What if I wanted to break
Laugh it all off in your face
What would you do?
What if I fell to the floor
Couldn't take all this anymore
What would you do, do, do?

Come Break me down
bury me, bury me
I am finished with you

What if I wanted to fight
Beg for the rest of my life
What would you do?
You say you wanted more
What are you waiting for
I'm not running from you

Come break me down
bury me, bury me
I am finished with you
Look in my eyes
You're killing me, killing me
All I wanted was you

I tried to be someone else
But nothing seemed to change
I know now, this is who I really am inside
Finally found myself
Fighting for a chance
I know now, this is who I really am
oh oh,oh oh,oh oh,
Come break me down
bury me, bury me
I am finished with you, you, you
Look in my eyes
You're killing me, killing me
All I wanted was you
Come, break me down
Break me down
Break me down

~The Kill

Thursday, May 6, 2010

I Miss My Mommy!

I put her on a plane this morning and she has landed safely in the land of the cold and trees.... I miss her..... a lot!

Monday, May 3, 2010

Monday Minute

My Mom has been here visiting and We have been out and about and laying low and just having fun :) I will be back next week with normal blog posts I promise! (not that anyone noticed) But for now......

Monday Minute

1 - How much would you have to be paid to eat a human cadaver's finger?
I don't think that I would be bale to do that... unless it was blended into a meat loaf or something like that..... but just eat a finger like a hot dog? I think not!

2 - Describe the worst physical fight you've ever been in.
I have only been in one fight. 6th Grade, Soccer Field, Jeanine Farinella, She had a LONG BLONDE pony tail that was on the very top of her head, she tripped me and I ran up behind her and grabbed the top of that pony tail and swung her around and threw her down and punched her in the face :) THATS how I roll people! LOL.. I got an in school suspension for a whole day and she and I were not really talkative as the years went on....

3 - Name one song that if you never heard it ever again, you'd be thrilled.
Greatest Time Of Year by Ali and AJ (i think), Year 3000 by the Jonas Brothers

4 - Describe the "drunkest" situation you've ever been.
Um,,,, this one is bad kids!!!! About 4 years ago James and I got HAMMERED at a Halloween Party at a friends house and decided to drive home ( I KNOW I KNOW NOT SMART) At the time we lived about 30 min from the party. I was on I-4, driving Stick at like 3 am, texting, playing tetris AND Bloop Blooping people on the same nextel phone....... James was also playing tetris and texting on his nextel. I have NO idea how we got home that night and NOR am I PROUD of that moment but that is one of the drunkest I have been in a very long time!
~public service announcement~ I know, it isn't cool! I am ashamed that I have done so and I don't drive like that any more.

5 - What's your biggest regret?
Not taking school seriously. I didn't get into any of the colleges I applied to when I was a senior in high school. I applied to 6 and got into none. My grades were HORRID! My rank in my class was LESS then stellar. I am having such an issue going back now as an adult because of it. Not Cool....